21 Things That I Want in a Lover

with apologies to Alanis

1. You should own at least one suit, and look hot while wearing it.
2. You cannot see friendship or love as a competition.
3. You must have a job and pay your own way.
4. You should understand that I need time alone and time away from you, or I won't be able to miss you.
5. You have to possess the humility to put others before yourself sometimes.
6. You should not smoke.
7. Once you get to know me, you should be able to sense some of my needs without my having to express them.
8. You must be able to challenge me intellectually, even if it is about a silly topic.
9. You have to know and love yourself, because if you don't, I won't be able to.
10. You must be aware of any prejudices you have and work to rid yourself of them.
11. You should possess my Wanderlust, but if you don't, it should not be a source of fear or worry for you.
12. You should set and meet goals on a regular basis.
13. You should know the values of and the differences between knowledge, wisdom and imagination.
14. You need to be able to empathise with others, while still upholding standards.
15. You must value life in all its forms.
16. Your standards for yourself must be the same or higher as your standards for others.
17. You must show me affection, respect and fidelity.
18. You must be able to learn from your mistakes and solve problems.
19. Jealousy should only motivate you to try harder. It should not get you down.
20. You must have a sense of humor, however dry or juvenile.
21. Your priorities must be in line with mine, or we will have problems down the road.